In freelancing, there are times when you have to deal with people who aren’t appealing to you. There are people we don’t like (or don’t like us as well).
But you can’t just let them disappear. Sometimes, you need to interact with them for work. Should you just quit? Not yet!
Here are 7 ways successful people handle people they don’t like.
Accept That People are Different
Yes, you need to accept that every single human being is unique. You have strengths and weaknesses. And your colleagues will have too.
The foundation to tolerate people you don’t like is to accept that they are like that. You can’t change them. If your colleague likes to brag about everything under the sun, you need to understand that s/he just might need that validation (though annoying).
Take the higher ground. You don’t have to please everyone, so just make this world a better place by accepting that each person has quirks and personalities that differ from yours.
It’s good to have a heart and put yourself in other people’s shoes (even though you don’t like them or their shoes). Everyone is fighting a battle.
They may be struggling with a nagging problem that’s making them act all crazy and negative. It helps to understand the situation and where they’re coming from, especially if you have to interact with them often.
Be Genuinely Interested: Find Something in Common
Remember the adage “If you can’t beat them, join them?” It works even with difficult people. Just try to find common ground and then bond with them using that shared interest. Perhaps that person likes the same movies, hobbies, or music that you do.
I’m pretty sure something is interesting in everyone. If you get them talking about things that you both like, that person will no longer be that hard to mingle with. The key is to be genuinely interested.
Who knows, you might have just got off on the wrong foot.
But it’s not all the time that we can take the higher ground. Some people are just too irritating to handle. Before you burst into anger, use the 10-second rule.
It’s just simple. Count for 10 seconds before you shout or act on your anger. Do not be controlled by your emotions. After counting, there is a higher chance that you are more composed and might be able to handle the situation more professionally.
Confront and Communicate
You don’t just ignore the problem or keep it all to yourself. Not all people can sense your dismay. You should communicate.
Confront them with your apprehensions. Most people are understanding enough to make amends. But be sure to remember the 10-second rule.
Express yourself in the most positive way possible and give that other person the benefit of the doubt.
Look at the Man (or Woman) in the Mirror
Remember that no one is perfect. That also applies to you. Maybe the negative trait you’re irritated on that other person is one that you see in yourself. Maybe it triggers insecurity in your part.
Reflect. Meditate. Get to know yourself. If you find that you are the root cause, it’s easier to change yourself. It might even lead to better relationships and friendships in the long run.
Let it Go
Yes, Elsa (from the movie Frozen) was right. You’ve got to let it go.
There’s no way to control people you don’t like. If you can’t avoid mingling with them, then at least keep it to a minimum.
As a freelancer, you have to deal with different types of people. Still, there’s no way to avoid this situation. At the end of the day, you don’t have to go home with that person you dislike. So thank your lucky stars for that.